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November 26, 2006

"I'm in love with a strict machine"

It's a day that I spend alone. One where I need to be alone. Every day for the past two months has been spent getting lost with everyone else, being lost inside of everyone else. I remember that I used to have an identity and a personality. These days I have no energy and even lying in bed is too painful.

I gaze out of my window at the same buildings and the same trees that have been here ever since I arrived and were here before I arrived. Yet everytime I look outside there's a different scene. The sky is different and there are different people; a girl who runs into the library for shelter from the rain. A guy who wraps a scarf around a girl and gives her a kiss on the cheek.

Or I see people that I do know, that I already have a small history with and wish that they could hear me screaming despite me being so far away from them.

A person that I don't recognize sees me staring out my window and waves up at me. I'm not sure if they know who I am or if they're even waving to me so I don't do anything back, other than continue to stare. They keep on waving even as they get in their car and begin to drive so I decide to humor them and wave back. They seem satisfied and stop waving up at me. I then wonder who they were.

**

Life isn't complicated or hard, but at the same time it is. Everything seems so much simpler at night when you're not yourself and you can pretend to be somebody else. You dress in your fanciest clothes, do up your make-up to perfection, sprtiz on your best smelling perfume, double check your pocketbook to make sure that you have everything that you'll need for the evening and the moment you step one foot onto the pavement, it has all began. You're walking arm-in-arm with your best girlfriends and in the air you can smell all of the night's possibilities. Who are you going to meet? What are you going to talk about? What are you going to do? Obviously there will be dancing. There's always dancing. And drinking. People buy you drinks because you're cute, funny and American.

"One more shot for the American!" they'll shout and you'll drink whatever it is that they give you because it's free and rude to turn down drinks from strangers with beautiful accents.

This is all that you wanted. You wanted the carefree life far, far away from everything that you know and recognize. You were desperate back home for some shaking up, for some craziness, for some fun. All you think about when you think about life back home are the restrictions and all of the rules. There were so many rules to follow and so many people it felt like they were tying you down. Bless them, you know they had the best intentions, but you just wanted to get away. And now that you are gone, you're scared that you may never want to go back.

Despite having the glorious night life addiction, you've also picked up a slight drug habbit. It's one thing to be an alcoholic, but getting stoned every other night and being hyped up on cocaine on the opposite nights isn't so glamorous. It's nasty and more importantly, expensive. The coke gives you energy when you're practically dead and your body is already ice cold and the weed chills you out and calms your nerves from the night before. You get lost in the fog and the haze of the smoke, and legends are brought back from the dead and make sweet, sweet love to you through their music. There are no problems and there never were any problems. You don't have any thoughts and as everyone is rushing all around you, you sit in the corner, propped up against a wall with your fag in one hand and watch life in slow motion.

**

Daylight is streaming through my window and I can hear the rain tap on the glass. I wake up, go to the bathroom and wish that I had washed my face and brushed my teeth the night before. I feel and look like roadkill. After I slowly take a shower and try to put myself together, I leave my room and walk into the kitchen to make my morning toast and tea. I see my flatmates and they smile strangely at me but say nothing. Their smile says it all. It says, "I saw you last night. I know what you did. I know what you said." I strain my face and form something that I think resembles a smile. Sometimes I'll sit in the kitchen and pretend to be social, but other times I just come back in my room where it's quiet. I may want to be alone, but I leave the door latched in case anybody wants to come in and talk. Gossip is more like it.

I lay with my head at the foot of the bed and watch as the clouds are pulled from one side of my window to the other. I watch the colors change in the sky. It goes from grey, to blue, to pink, to purple and finally to deep, dark blue. Sunset is my favorite time and the only time when I care to get up and look at the sky completely. I can see the pink clouds being reflected in the puddles in the grass from all of the rain. I watch as the planes disappear and think about when I was on a plane to come over here. It was quite the day, and already seems like years ago. I was walking in the unknown and wasn't prepared for any of this. All of the research I did, all of the paperwork I filled out, all of endless nights I stayed up thinking about that day did nothing to prepare me for all of this.

Eventually the light fades and the night has returned. I've done nothing other than lay on my bed in the same position all day, alone. I don't plan on going out, I never plan on it. Until my cell phone rings and the voice on the other end is telling me about the new theme for the evening at the bop or at the bar. I refuse, half-heartedly and part of me really doesn't want to go out. Part of me just wants to stay in, recover from the other nights out and be lazy. But the other part doesn't want to be left out. I don't want to be the one who's listening to the story, rather I want to be the one telling it. I want to be the one who laughs, who dances, who cries, who runs, who screams, who drinks, who argues, who plays, who does it all. I want it to be me.

So I force myself out of bed, take some more pro plus and that's when I fall back into the shadows and you come out into the light.

November 25, 2006

Sort it out.

It's when you wake up the next morning with your eyelids stuck together from the two hours of crying and the mascara holding your lashes together that you wonder if this is rock bottom yet. I mean, things really can't get any worse, can they? You've alienated yourself from your friends and family back home, you don't have any money, you quit your job after two shifts, you've become addicted to pro plus and taking two every morning is the only way that you can get out of bed. You've drank, smoked, snorted and danced all of your money away. The security guards no longer ask you for your student ID because you're a regular at the bar and people only know you as the girl who likes to dance. You forget that you even have lectures, you've lost track of all of the homework you have to do and you cry over boys who won't remember your face let alone your name the next morning.

But you press on. You don't stop going out, your immune system is on the verge of completely failing and you can't get rid of the fucking cough that has been clinging to your chest for two months, but it's okay. One more fag, one more line, one more drink, one more spliff, one more song. You shove the guilt aside and don't even think about admiting to anyone how badly you've fucked up because the last thing you want to hear is "I told you so" or listen to four hour lectures about how you should have budgeted better, planned better, prepared better, done everything better. Which is why you never ask for help. You don't let yourself think about how you've let everyone down, mostly yourself.

Because tomorrow is a new day and you're so far in denial about the entire situation that you think no matter how deep the hole is, you can still climb out of it.

November 12, 2006

"Hide your bad habits underneath the patio"

Ten days since my last blog post? It has been FAR TOO LONG.

Honestly, I have no sense of time here. Days come, they go, they come again...I never know if it's a Thursday or a Monday. Who cares? Is it really that important to know what day it is? And then I realize that it has been ten days since I've posted on my blog and I realize that, yes, it is THAT IMPORTANT.

The good news is that I got a job. Hip, hip, HORRAY! Hip, hip, HORRAY!

(Yes, I have also noticed that there are a lot of capital words in this post and I'm not even halfway through. Please bear with me.)

I'm working at this old man's pub called Wetherspoons. That's right, ladies and gentleman, I'm a barmaid. How cool is that? I haven't started work yet, since I was just hired this Friday, but my first shift is on Thursday and I'm really excited. Before you know it I'll be able to pour a pint with one hand tied behind my back. The cool thing is that I won't be working alone. Three of my flatmates will be working there as well; Santos, Carlene and Zoe. We'll all get sick and tired of seeing each other or it'll be tons of fun. I'm betting my money on tons of fun.

Unfortunately my reading week was a waste of time to do any decent writing. I don't know why I'm raging against the machine and finding it so difficult to write one decent thing on a piece of paper, but it's taking a lot of effort to sit me down and do some proper work. I feel like a three-year-old sometimes who refuses to eat their vegetables.

"No! I don't want to write! I want candy!!!"

Honestly, you would think that I'd be so excited about having all of this time to write beautiful words that move people to their inner core, but I'm finding it more fun to actually experience life at the moment instead of writing it all down. There are just so many things to see and do, that when I finally do find the time to write, I'm so exhausted and just want to sleep. Today I did do a little bit of writing and managed to squeeze out three teeny tiny paragraphs from my fingers. I prefer to let the words come naturally and found that forcing myself to try and be creative wasn't the way to go about things.

I'm going to take a break from London for a little bit though. At least for a couple of days. I can't go out drinking anymore. I can't be bothered to muster up the energy to come up with one more outfit, to paste my make-up on for one more night, to spend one more pound. I just can't. Everybody thinks that I've become depressed but that's not the case. I just need some alone time. Some sober, alone time that doesn't require me to be sprawled out on the floor reaching for my door handle, but can't because I'm too intoxicated. Sure, it was a good night, but I woke up the next day wishing that I could push all of my insides back inside of my body.

I need to step away from everybody's drama. There is so much drama floating around here that it's like the flu. You can't help but catch it. I've been caught up in everybody else's drama that I've lost track of my own. Not that I have that much drama going on at the moment. I think that it's just time I take care of myself for a bit and worry more about me instead of all of my flatmates. Every now and then it's good to say, "fuck it, you figure it out." I have to remember why I came here in the first place, re-examine my situation and not forget that I did have a reason to be here, and it's not to analyze why so-and-so doesn't want to talk to so-and-so.

The time has come for me to grow up a little and remember the old Sam who lived back in Virginia, who was chained behind her desk and who wanted so badly to live in London. Not stumble around in London and shout incoherent phrases to random strangers. I need to take time to write to my mother, tell her how much I love and miss her, and how badly I wished she was coming over with Mel in December. I need to send off the millions of postcards that I've written for people back home, just haven't sent off yet. I need to read all of the blogs that I haven't visited for the past couple of weeks. I need to get a haircut. I need to think about my finances. I need to be the writer I was back home.

And I need to not neglect my blog anymore.

November 02, 2006

"It's hard to live in the city"

Believe it or not, but I do think that I eat a lot more here in London than I ever ate back home. I'm not sure why, but I'm very aware of my eating habits here and just food in general.

When I first arrived it was scary not knowing where my next meal was going to come from. The university did provide our first couple of meals since we obviously didn't have any food with us or know of any local places to go and buy food. It really did suck not having any food in the kitchen as well just to have and poke through if I ever got a craving for something and wanted a snack.

These days, however, my cupboard is fully stocked, as is the fridge and freezer. I've discovered that there isn't any meal that you can't eat toast with. I go through a loaf of bread within approximately four days. I've also learned that Super Noodles are just like ramen and I'm eating like a proper college student. Tea is required at all meals and if you make a cup of tea, you have to ask everyone who's in the kitchen if they'd like one as well. It's bad manners not to do so in our kitchen. Fiona and I are the primary tea makers though since everyone has voted and decided that we make the best tea. Being American, I take that as a huge compliment.

The one thing that I have a love/hate relationship with is grocery shopping. It's always fun going to Asda on my lonesome to do a bit of food shopping, roaming up and down each aisle whilst listening to Mini. I still like looking at all of the different brands of food and just how everything comes in smaller portions over here. I always take my time and eventually my cart will be over halfway full and I'll think to myself, "ah, yes. Another successful shopping trip. I won't need to go food shopping for quite a while now." And then I'll remember that I don't have a car. I can't just chuck everything into the trunk and drive it home. I have to take the bus. Where there's limited space. Where I'll look like a dork struggling with all of the heavy items.

Then I'll back track all of my steps and decide whether or not I really need the five cans of Hoops (spaghetti O's).

I don't. I compromise with myself and put three of them back.

Once I'm finished filtering through everything that Asda have to offer, I go to the checkout line and remember that I not only have to carry all of this shit back by myself, but I also have to bag everything.

That's right. We don't have bag boys here in England. People are meant to do it themselves. Honestly!

Since I'm OCD about my food, I take ages and make sure that the refrigerator items are put together, and that the bread isn't with anything that will smush it completely flat. I also try and distribute bag weight evenly so that one bag isn't heavier than another. I can tell that everybody who's in line behind me are regretting their decision to stand behind the small American who takes seven years to bag twenty items. I feel bad, really, I do, but at the same time I don't feel like searching through all of the bags once I get home for all of the freezer items, which is what I always put away first.

I've taken the bus back a couple of times after a big food shopping trip, but then I wised up and learned that it only costs a fiver for me to call the taxi company and have them meet me at Asda. Lauren is a big fan of taxis and has taught me that it's much better to spend the extra money getting a cab where you can sit comfortably by yourself instead of struggling to get on the bus and have everyone look at you and feel sorry for you. Not only that, but the cab drivers usually help you load all of your bags into the boot of the car and take them out for you right at the bottom of the stairs.

Yes, it is totally worth it.

I don't waste as much food as I used to back home and make sure if I buy something, I'll eat it. There's no point in buying something to sit in the cupboard for weeks collecting dust. It's remarkable, but I've never been so conscious about food. These days it's one of my regular thoughts and so far I think I've been doing a really good job keeping up with it all. I cook quite a bit as well and have learned that I'm not too terrible at making some things.

It was definitely unusual adjusting to the food changes but for the most part I think I'm doing alright. I may not have everything like back home and eat properly every single night, but I'm also not a starving artist. Whenever I get a moment or I'm even slightly bored, I know I can go into the kitchen and make Hoops on toast, Super Noodles on toast or nutella and toast.

"Why do I keep counting?"

I just woke up from the Mother Of All Sleeps. Fourteen hours I laid still in my bed and worried about nothing other than sleep, sleep and more sleep. It was great and completely necessary.

For the past couple of weeks I've been getting by on four or five hours of sleep. If I'm lucky I'll get a full eight hours here and there, but there just hasn't been a steady pattern of any kind for my poor body who everyday yells at me continuously for being so abusive. I have cut down on going out and I'm nowhere near as sad and far in a funk as I was before. I'm actually being productive and taking the proper steps to get my things sorted. It is a good feeling.

Last week I updated my CV (resume) and headed into Putney to find a job. I filled out a couple of applications and dropped my CV off in some shops that I wouldn't mind working in. Putney is the most ideal place to get a job since it's only ten minutes up the road by bus, and I'd prefer not going so far out to work. If it was up to me I'd work at HMV but I also left an application in The Body Shop and of course Boots, and some other stores that wouldn't suck if I worked there. So far I haven't heard anything but I'm hopeful and there's still Barnes and Hammersmith that I haven't scouted yet. I plan on going next week since it's the Creative Writing Reading Week. Apparently that's supposed to be time for us to be creative, write, read and hook up with our editing groups. I'm using it to open my bank account and continue to find a job. A lot of work should get accomplished as well, but mostly it'll be me kicking my job searching into high gear.

It was only a few days ago when I was downstairs with Zoe and Fiona smoking I realized that it was fall. The leaves have been changing all around me right before my eyes, the days are becoming colder and colder, and yet I've been absolutely oblivious to all of the signs that Mother Nature has been shoving in front of my face. I've been in denial, yet again, about the change in the seasons. I don't want it to get cold. Well, I do, because I love fall, but at the same time it's really sad. It makes me want to go back home and snuggle on the couch with Momma, drinking a cup of hot tea, talking about every subject under the sun for hours on end like we usually do around this time of year. I want to walk around in my flannel jammies and lay in bed with Mel while we watch our regular TV shows.

I became homesick. I still am. I just want to go back for a day. Okay, maybe a week. Maybe two. I just want to visit though. Then I'd want to come back here and finish what I started.

The really sad thing is that I'm not going back home for Christmas. Not at all. Instead I'll be staying here at university. No worries, I won't be completely alone. Mel is coming to visit me from the 16th of December until the 29th. Momma and I still aren't speaking and even though Mel says that she isn't mad at me anymore, things still aren't okay with us. Things were never sorted. Things are very much not okay.

Still, I'm excited about Mel coming to visit me. I can't wait to show her around university, introduce her to my flatmates, take her into central London, Hammersmith, Putney, Kingston and Barnes. There are so many places I need to take her and so many things I need to show her. We'll do all of the tourist things and I know she's excited about the shopping in London. I wish Momma was coming with her, but it won't happen since she'll still be taking her college classes and if she misses two, she fails. Instead Mel assured me that she'll come in March when she has to come to England anyway for some business stuff. How nice...

Even with the seasons changing and the strong feelings of homesickness, the girls have been keeping me occupied and happy so I'm not always in my room sulking, screaming out how much I want to eat American food and curl under my covers in my bedroom. We're already making plans for our Thanksgiving dinner, because goddammit just because we're in England doesn't mean we can't have a proper Thanksgiving meal. Trish and I will be getting everything prepared since we're the two yanks in our group, and everybody else will be doing the dishes even though they don't know it yet.

I've also been invited to go to Spain, Ireland and north Africa by Lauren and Zoe. Lauren and I have become quite close and she's always talking about how I need to go home with her. It's so cheap to travel around here as well. At least a lot cheaper than if I was flying all the way from America. So I do believe in the next couple of weeks I'll be writing about how nice the weather is in Spain. I've also told all of the girls that they're more than welcome to come back to America with me. I told them it wouldn't be anywhere near as fun as here, but they still want to visit. Lauren is excited about going to North Carolina where I promised her she could find a real cowboy. Of course her chances of finding one are a lot greater if we went to Texas, so Carlene said she could visit her home in Texas if things don't work out in North Carolina.

Everything just keeps flying by me at record high speed. I keep looking around but there isn't anything for me to grab a hold of just so I can breathe for a moment, and wrap my brain around everything that is going on. I still half expect to wake up one morning and find myself back in Virginia with everyone wondering why I'm so late for work and thinking that that was the wildest dream I've ever had. But every morning (or afternoon, depending on my night beforehand), I wake up and I'm still here.