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February 19, 2007

"All I need is a bitter song, to make me better"

I was in somebody else's flat surrounded by snobby third years who whispered as they held their drinks gingerly in their hands. I overheard one of the girls who was wearing a trendy chunky necklace lean over to her girlfriend and not-so-quietly ask, "who exactly is she?"

"She's a fucking legend, she is," A.J shouted to her. "She doesn't know it yet, but everybody knows who she is. She has made quite the name for herself. Every morning, or should I say afternoon, I see her downstairs hungover from the night before with her fag in one hand a mug of tea in the other. Always wearing the make-up from the evening before she can barely stand when she talks to me and I know she has had yet another classic night. Isn't that right, Sam?"

I take a swig from my vodka and lemonade and focus on the word "legend" for a moment.

"Indeed. That would be me. Crazy, loud, obnoxious, American Sam. You can't fucking miss me."

**

These days I'm mostly found in my room, clutching my side that has had a permanent cramp on the right side from all of my coughing. I became ill again and have been out of commission for almost an entire week. I'm sure everybody has thought that I've died or something. It's strange, but I don't miss going out every night either. I'm mostly pining over Virginia and prefer to sit in my room watching Gilmore Girls online while I go through photos from back home. I listen to a lot of music that I used to cruise to all the time in my car and daydream about being back in the townhouse. I'm craving the American air again, I want to see all of my friends and family and I'm dying for a hamburger from Five Guys.

It doesn't appear to be happening anytime soon though. While I thought I would be going back home for Easter for about two and a half weeks, Momma told me no since she thought it would be a bit pointless for me to come home only to stay here until June and then fly back to the states. I'm a little depressed since I was really looking forward to it and really annoyed with Momma. It's not a good feeling, this homesick feeling and it kind of makes you want to throw up every fifteen minutes if only to get rid of the nausea that seems to constantly be in my system.

I got a job, only to lose it three hours later. I suppose asking the store if I could borrow a pair of shoes to wear until the end of my trial shift wasn't a good thing in my manager's eyes. I should have been prepared and wore shoes that were comfortable and I knew I could stand in for six hours. She said that she would call me back, but that was a week and a half ago so I'm guessing she either found somebody who has shoes that she approves of or I was just shit all together at greeting people when they walked in and tidying up the front of the shop.

Instead I applied for two other jobs, one which is another bar job. I vowed that I would never have another bar job, but desperate times call for desperate measures and as we all know, beggars certainly cannot be choosers. Apparantly they're quite desperate for work too so hopefully we can work out some kind of deal.

My first year of uni has been a mental joy ride without a safety belt. It seems like I've lived seven different lives all in a compressed amount of time. I've met so many different people and have seen so much of London so quickly I'm finding it hard to sort through all of the memories and put them in chronological order. I do remember the beginning when we were all shy and still in the process of getting to know each other. I remember once the ice was finally broken we hit the night life scene hard and came out on the other end practically dead and on the verge of a mental breakdown. It was crazy but I pushed the limits and know just how far my body can go. Now we're all poor trying to scrap enough money together to buy the essentials: tea bags, milk, sugar, bread, butter and fags. We spend most of our evenings in, watching films and talking about life back home as if we were war vets. We get letters from family members, care packages with little bits of our past lives and wonder when we'll be able to feel the familar roads beneath our feet again.

I think about the city and remember when I was working in Corporate America. I hated it, but I was good at it. I wonder if I'll go back. If I do I know I'll just go back to daydreaming about the city that I love. I'll think about the London boys with grungy clothes and skinny jeans or the girls with the funky hoop earrings and flat ballet shoes. I'll miss the tube and all of the different pubs that I've sat in while a football match has been playing in the background. I'll definitely miss the night scene and all of the gay bars and indie clubs that have local bands play. I'll miss my flatmates and our endless late night conversations and all of the times we pop downstairs for a fag at two or three o'clock in the morning. I know I'll miss walking around alone with my iPod blasting music in my ears and staring at all of the different people that pass me by.

There's just so much.

I've done a lot of living, but I wish I could have done more. My coursework is piss easy which leaves me with a lot of time on my hands. During the day I normally sleep or hang out in the kitchen and it is the evening when things begin to happen. It's our life that we live all together. It's our story that I've watched unfold before my eyes. I don't know if anyone else would give two shits about our story, but to us it's amazing. We are the different characters all from different places that have come together and instantly bonded while sorting our futures out. Uni is just something that happens in the background as we grow and learn how to live with each other and change into (hopefully) well-rounded people.

Our first year is ending though and it's fast-approaching. We're being forced to look into the future and get things set up for round two of our uni lives. It sucks, really. We've become so comfortable in our uni bubble. The cushion that we have for ourselves is a pot of gold and nobody really wants to leave. In the back of our minds we all secretly hoped that this would be it for us.

I can feel myself being pulled back though. Back to my life in Virginia. I can hear Momma's voice. I see her face all the time. It's like I'm in a big pool full of old memories and I'm slowly drowning in them and the deeper I sink the more vivid and often they flood my mind. The light fades as I continue to fall to the bottom, my chest tightens and it becomes hard for me to breathe. I close my eyes and even though I'm under water I still cry and can feel the tears roll down my cheeks.

I'll keep on waiting. The day will come when I return back to Manassas and be rejoined with everything that is known and familar. Until then I'll have to press on here and learn how to properly take care of myself, stand on my own two feet and learn how to survive completely on my own in London. I have to soak it up now since I know that when I do go back home I'll be wishing I was back here listening to the London rain tap on my window and living in my uni bubble.

February 10, 2007

"Cry me a river"

It was another memorable and emotional evening. Drinks were involved and the tension was so high I could barely see above my glasses.

I was ready for a fight. A proper scrap down on the floor with me screaming and punching my enemy so hard he wouldn't be able to walk for at least a couple of weeks. It had been years since I had fought someone and with the mental state I was in, nobody would get in my way and I dared everyone to try and stop me. All I needed to do was find him, locate him, pinpoint his exact location and take him down when he wasn't expecting it.

There's only so many times when a girl's emotions can be fucked with before she loses all control.

Everyone was put on alert. My phone was confiscated from me. I was told that I had a three drink minimum. Too bad I got three drinks from everyone I was with.

And then I saw him. I found him, located him and pinpointed his exact location.

I lit a fag for myself and started walking towards him. He was surrounded by his regular lot but I didn't care. I'd take them down as well. I dared them to stop me. I wanted them to try. I was prepared for it. There were so many things I wanted to say to him before I tore his limbs off his body. There were so many things that he needed to know, that I wanted him to hear. Things that I needed to say to his face so I could for once finally move on and get to the point where I didn't fall for his usual lines or his usual moves. It was vital for him to know how terrible he makes me feel. How he treats me like shit. How I turn into this needy, clingy and desperate person that I despise whenever I see him.

Then I could tear his ears off.

Before I made it over to him though, Helen walked in front of me, gave me a hug, held my face in her hands so I was looking at her in the eyes and asked me if I was okay.

My eyes started to cloud up with my tears and I began to shake as I lost control and fell apart right in the middle of the bar.

"No. No, baby, I'm not okay. I'm not okay in the slightest. I just want to fight him and I can't."

"Shhh. Shhh, honey, don't worry about him. He's just a wanker that didn't deserve any of your time in the first place. You are way too good for him, you can do a whole lot better and he's lucky to have ever spent any time with a girl like you."

Her boyfriend, David, walked up to us, took one look in my eyes and knew immediately what was wrong. He knows about the Sam and Sam saga. The dramatic soap opera that has been dragging on for far too long.

He gave me a hug and told me I'd be okay. I shouldn't worry about boy Sam and how he's just a cunt.

"He is. I know he is. I just want to tell him. Please let me tell him how much I hate him and how much of a cunt he is. Please. Please just let me do that. There are things I would have done for him. I would have been so good to him. Why won't he let me do that? Why doesn't he ever answer any of my questions?" The tears kept flowing through the sobs.

"Because that's boy Sam for you. He's an East London cunt. Forget about him. Don't worry about it anymore. You're going to be fine."

I turned to face Helen again and told her I wanted her to be there when I cussed him out.

"Are you sure that's a good idea, Sam? You're quite drunk. I don't think it's such a good idea."

"No. It's what I want to do. I need to do it tonight, because if I don't do it now, I may never do it. And then we can go dance and listen to Dave's new set of songs."

"Should we go out for some air first so you can smoke?"

"Yes, that sounds brilliant."

I stood outside in the rain as I smoked and pulled myself together. Helen disappeared for a moment and reappeared with, Adam, her ex-boyfriend and boy Sam's best friend.

"Sam, baby, tell me what's wrong? What's going on?"

It was no use trying to pull myself together because I fell apart the moment I saw Adam.

"Adam, I don't understand your fucking friend. What is his problem?"

"To be honest, I don't know what his problem is. But you can't talk to him right now, Sam. It's just not a good time. He's really drunk, you're really drunk. Nothing would get accomplished."

"Yes it would! It would! I'd finally get to tell him how much he fucking sucks. I'd tell him how I don't appreciate being jerked around. I'd tell him that I don't find it amusing that he gets with me one night and then pulls one of my good friends in a club the next night. I'd tell him that I never want to talk to him ever again and how I am so sure. I've never been more sure of anything in my life. I want him to fucking leave me alone forever. Please....please....please let me tell him."

"I don't think that's such a good idea, Sam. I'll have him call you tomorrow when you're both sober and sort this out."

"You won't. And if you do, he won't call. He's a coward."

After that point, I sank into myself and life began to happen around me at warp speed. I remember Adam leaving, Helen leaving, Alex and Zoe appearing out of nowhere, smoking, smoking and smoking some more. I drank a little more, despite everyone arguing with me about it, danced a little bit, cried a little more and forgetting why I was upset in the first place. I remember seeing Dave up on the dj stand and screaming out how much I loved him and how I was sorry that I didn't bring him any panties to throw at him while he was on stage. I'm not sure how I got outside but it was decided that we were all going to go home. I found my jacket and walked in the rain while shouting at random strangers.

I'm not sure what I did after I got home. I searched for my phone but couldn't find it and I didn't know who had it. I drank with strangers for a while. I set off the fire alarm from smoking inside the building and made everyone come outside at half three in the morning.

And then I fell asleep. I woke up peeling my eyelashes apart and wondering why I was wearing Alex's jumper. I made some tea, ate some toast and smoked some more. I stared out my window and became entranced by a small girl sliding around in the mud like it was her own personal frozen, muddy ice rink. Why there was a small girl alone on campus, I'm not sure, but it was a beautiful sight to see. She was in her own world with no worries and so happy. That innocence is so pure and I miss being so carefree. I want those days back. I would get down on both knees and beg for those days back if it was possible.

I don't feel anything at the moment. Well, I'm embarrassed, but aside from that I don't care anymore. It's done. I'm going to be fine. I thought I was going home during the Easter break, but it turns out that I'm not. I did get a job and my national insurance number, so that is a good thing. I said my bit and I'm sure he knows what he's done. I don't care if he's upset or if he doesn't care at all. I can't care about it anymore. It's too exhausting. I've got things to do and caring about him is no longer on that list. If I could have had my way I would have said it all to his face but I suppose I'll just have to settle with the message coming from his mate. It was probably safer for him as well.

Now I can get on with things. Now I can take care of myself.

February 03, 2007

"I wanna go home"

It started about three weeks ago. I was standing in the kitchen, looking out of our window at London's horizon. In my hand I had a cup of tea and I was thinking how lovely it all looked. I thought about the skies here and how they're different. They're not the same as the skies back home.

I miss home.

I haven't been able to shake the feeling since. It's like someone is fishing and I've got their hook stuck in my heart and it's tugging me back towards Heathrow asking for a one way ticket back to the states. I wouldn't look back. I just want to go home.

It kind of scared me how sudden and abrupt the change was. It's happened before but I never thought that it would happen to me and London. Never ever would I get tired of my city. We were always going to be together, holding hands and skipping in a field of daisies. We would continue loving each other and taking care of each other until we were both old and I was senile. That's what I was looking forward to.

But even still, the closest of friends need a break from each other every so often. They need to take a breather and be alone if only so they can miss their other half. Which is exactly what I need. Now.

I could have gone home during the Christmas break, but things were odd during that time. I was still kind of in a stress with Momma and wasn't exactly in the mood to go back and be with everyone. I wasn't ready to leave London and I really wanted Mel to come over so we could hang out here and I could show her my new world. Being able to share with Mel this entire new side of me was a great feeling and to be honest, I was quite proud of this little bit of corner that I have carved out for myself. Sure, it isn't anything great and it certainly is modest, but it's mine and I'm proud of it all. She needed to see it and experience it just so that she could feel how important it all is to me.

I've been doing a little counting though (not much since numbers make my brain hurt) and I've realized that come Valentine's Day, I would have been here for an entire six months. Six whole fucking months that I've been here. It's shocking really and frightening to think about for more than five minutes. I've been out and about in this big city all by my lonesome for the most part. Yes, I know I have my flatmates now, but we're all basically in the same boat, feeling out the new surface with our feet and testing things out to see if it's safe or not to walk on.

It is essentially the six months itch.

Oh, how the homsickness is starting to kick in for me. It's not because I'm skint though. I'm sure of it. First of all, I wouldn't be coming back with any money anyway since Momma has said that she wouldn't give me any. And second of all, I've been skint for a long while now and eventually you tend to forget just how poor you are. To drown it out I've been going out and partying, naturally. You'd be surprised just how drunk you can get when you've got absolutely no money to your name. Nothing. I literally don't have one cent to call my own. Is it a scary feeling? Kind of, yeah. Am I freaking out? Not so much...not anymore. I was scared in the beginning since I wasn't sure what I was going to do. I've always had money and got used to it being around. What I've learned is that I can get used to not having money as well. It's a different lifestyle, but it is possible. Trust me when I say that this is not going to be the norm for me. I do want a job, I do want to have money and I do want to be some kind of contributing member of society. It's just a little harder when you don't have a national insurance number. I wish I would have known about that before I came over here, but hey....shit happens. My appointment is on the 8th of February and I'll be sorted the moment I get that annoying thing that has been a royal pain in my ass ever since I first started looking for a job.

Until then, I've got some time on my hands. For the most part I've been watching everybody's box dvd sets that they have of different TV programs during the day and during the night, I go to the bar or my new favorite gay club called, Reflex. Yes, the gay scene is totally happening here and I'm deep in the mix of things. I'm not gay, but I do love all the people and the fact that I can go to a place that plays the perfect, cheesy music that I love to dance to and not worry about random guys trying to pull me. Life is so much happier amongst the rainbow lights, disco balls and poppers.

I have stories. I've been collecting them and safely filing them away in the back of my mind. I've done things that I've wanted to do, things that I thought I would never do and things that I've regretted. Everyone's jaws would drop and they would squeal, "no! Not our Sammi Jo! She'd never do such a thing..." But I have, and it was fun. I've had a good time and I'd love to take the time to write about them all in great length and detail. However, at this particular time I just want to curl up in my bed - my double bed - back in Virginia, stare outside of my window with my TV on quietly in the background and fall asleep knowing that Momma and Mel are only a couple of feet away. I miss my home. I miss walking around the townhouse in my jammies, not caring what I looked like, making a bowl of cereal and talking to Momma in the morning times before she darted off to work. I miss running out and getting lunch for everyone at the office. I miss sitting in traffic at the end of the day and chilling with myself. I miss, I miss, I miss so much. And I don't want anymore distractions from those thoughts. I don't want to go to another club, another bar, another pub, another house party, another drinking game, another spliff, or another anything. For once, I don't want it in the slightest.

I just want to go home. Please just let me go home.