My Mumbling Thoughts

Yesterday I recieved my first rude comment ever on my blog. At first when I got it, I was all, Awesome! Helen, come and check this out! My first rude comment EVER. But after thinking about it for a little while, I wasn't too impressed. Who was this person that just took it upon himself to call me whiney and tell me to shut up? On my OWN BLOG? I don't think so, man. That's just not gravy.

And before I even carry on, I don't want this post to seem like I'm just a pussy bitch that can't handle one person saying something negative about me. I'm sure there are loads of people in this world that like to say mean things about me, and I know of a couple people who just plain hate my guts, and that's fine. I don't really care. It's the principle in this case that bothers me so much.

I have to approve for comments to be published, mostly because I don't want to let the spam comments through advertising 'hot asian bitch that get cumshot'. Um, no thanks dude. That's not really what this blog is about. But in the back of my mind, I thought about that one fateful day that might arise -- the day that someone writes something mean in the comments. Do I publish it? Or do I just chuck it in the pile of porn advertisements?

I decided to join a couple of blogging communities here in the London area, because I thought it would be nice to try and develop some relationships with other local bloggers. I mean, I can't go to BlogHer, so why not try and find something similar here? There's a whole community out there, and wouldn't it be nice to try and connect with others of similar interests? And that's when Mr. JT walked into my life here on My Mumbling Thougths. I had to decide yesterday whether or not to publish his rude comment. I figured since he had taken the time to read my one post (and I'm sure that was the only post of mine he has read), I should acknowledge that and publish his comment, even though it wasn't exactly rose colored for me.

But then I thought about it a little more, and thought, oh hell no. This is MY blog. MY Mumbling Thoughts. MY words. And his comment simply isn't kosher. It's something that many other bloggers before me have been repeating, but it's true -- nobody is forcing you to read this. If you don't like it, simply move on quietly and you never have to return. Personal blogs are just that: personal. It's all about me. This is where I write about my life. I am Narcissus and my blog is my pool of my own reflection (although, I suppose that isn't a good thing since he drowned, but whatever. You get the point).

And yeah, I tend to whine a lot. I write about when I cry, how I feel sorry for myself and have elaborate pity parties just for one. I'm shallow, selfish, conceited, rude, obnoxious, offensive and self-absorbed. I complain all the time about how I live in one of the greatest cities in the world, but how life is still shit, because GOD, everything isn't perfect All. The. Time.

I can do that though, and you want to know why? BECAUSE THIS IS MY BLOG AND I'LL CRY IF I WANT TO.

If you have a different opinion to me, then that's awesome, feel free to tell me. But do so in a respectful and fair manner. You wouldn't go up to a random stranger on the street and call them whiney and tell them to shut up (at least I hope you wouldn't), so what gives you the right to do so on someone's blog? I know when we post things on our blogs, we're exposing ourselves to everyone else in the world with an internet connection and may have to face their scrutiny, but at the same time there's a common courtesy factor that one should take into consideration as well.

I may not have control in my every day life to delete people and their rude comments, but I do have that power here on my blog, and I think I'll be exercising my right to not let anymore negativity get pass here. It looks like JT was the (un)lucky randomer to be my first and last rude commenter. Besides, I'd hate for some of my extraordinary regular readers to be jailed for shanking a bitch. Thanks y'all. You guys rock and make me smile.